Yesterday my mother-in-law asked me if I
was planning on having a 4D scan.
Having never heard of the concept
before, about a year ago they became overly popular and I was seeing them all
over the place.
I still remember seeing one for the
first time (quite a step change from the usual scan picture I'd seen... much
more graphic and play-doh like!)
This could be because up until a year
ago they weren't available, or because up until about a year ago I had very
very few friends with babies (so just wasn't exposed to it)
Having discussed it for about a minute
with the hubs his view on the rest was pretty clear. In his mind it was
unnecessary and just a bit weird.
Usually when it comes to things like
this, I find myself passionately disagreeing with him.
Not this time.
We had The Harmony Test early on in my
pregnancy, a test that comes with a decent price tag but is very reassuring at
the same time. Whilst the test does tell you the baby's gender (which some may
agree, and some may disagree with), the main reason for doing it is to discover
any genetic disorders your little one may have.
This test wasn't a discussion. The
second we heard about it, the second we both knew we'd have it.
The 4D scan is a little different for
us. Aside from the fact that it has no medical benefits so I can't in my mind really
justify the cost in my mind, I don't really like the images produced. The
babies always look a little squishy. I also am not sure I want to know what
Baby J looks like.
Yes there are benefits. You can pretty
much see all the features on their face. My friend had one before her little
girl was born and I couldn't believe it when I met her. It was like I already
knew her... this particular friend made the 4D scan her cover photo on
Facebook... Each to their own!
However, by the time you have the scan you're
nearing the end of your pregnancy. For those of us who discover our baby's
gender in advance, we have a good few months to start imaging what our little
one will be/look like. Seeing what they look like is just a little too much for
me. The idea actually makes me a little uncomfortable.
I am a neurotic control freak and
surprised myself a little when I realised my opinion on the matter, but seeing
Baby J's little face for the first time is one of those moments I'm most
looking forward to about the birth... second to hearing his first cry (of
course!)
I never judge anyone else for their
opinions, and am sure that a lot of people out there can't understand why you
would want to know the sex of the baby in advance... I suppose years ago
it wasn't an option so some people are still getting their heads around it.
Some love the idea of the surprise on the day (for me this wasn't an option, I
had to know and have zero regrets about finding out, I love referring to Baby J
as a "him" rather than an "it" and discovering that he's a
little boy just made the whole thing so real for me and for the hubs)
I wonder what the developments will be
in the future!? I imagine that in a few years from now everyone (in Western
countries) will have 4D scans as they'll become the norm, but what else?
Will we be able to have a camera in our
belly's watching the entire pregnancy process?? Maybe we will be able to hear
them??
We will have to wait and see I guess …
For me, technology, on the one hand is
mind blowing and awesome and on the other, scary as hell!
Either way you won't be seeing a 4D
picture of Baby J anytime soon, I guess you'll just have to wait for the real
thing :-)
I don't know if I would have wanted to have a 4D scan or not. Seems odd but then I suppose ordinary scans seemed odd at first. I did know the sex of my first baby and my last baby , but not the middle one. It didn't make much difference to the birth experiences to be honest. I do however remember feeling over whelmed that the middle child was a boy after having had a girl....
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